The Unseen Forces that Move Us

The Unseen Forces that Move Us

The one thing that we can all count on in life is change.  Making these changes for positive and inspiring things may not always come easy, or does it? Once we learn a few basic principles we find out the only thing that really stands in our way is within our own thoughts themselves. Our thoughts are made up of energy and the more light we cast upon them with positive uplifting ideas we start gaining awareness and these transitions start flowing better.
We don’t realize that these sometimes insurmountable obstacles we’re up against are put there by our own thought waves. That’s right, the unforeseen force that moves us is in fact our own mind. When we feel like all things in the universe are against us it’s actually our own inner conscience that says I feel this so it must be so.
The first step in our understanding has to be the realization that all change happens as part of our learning process here. Think of these human bodies we wear  as school uniforms and we all have to wear them as part of the curriculum. Every cell within these bodies carries a memory and has the ability to store memories like a filing system. This also means that we have a complete set of instructions built within us.
How do we access these instructions? Simple, we don’t have to reach in it pops up automatically in the form of intuition;  kind of like the sensor lights in our cars telling us something’s wrong. We put oil in the car when the light tells us to right? We already know how to trust that inner programming for things like breathing, eating and going to the bathroom. No one has to tell us to do those things we instinctively know and go on an autopilot.  All other aspects work that way as well but some how we put the breaks on at letting our instincts run the rest of the show.
Realizing the mirror effect that we have on each other is helpful in understanding the thought processes we go through. It is a key ingredient in learning how easy it is to commiserate with each other as a way of bonding. This is a great thing when the commiserating is of a positive nature but all too often it is a negative contagious thing that drags us to the bottom quickly. As an example say a friend calls to say they just had an accident. They start going on about what a stupid jerk the other guy was and how put out they have become. We could start in by saying you poor thing what horrible thing to happen, you didn’t deserve that and yeah what a jerk. Instead maybe say “you’re not hurt right?” “You’re covered by insurance right?” “Now you might get that new car you wanted right?” The accident happened for a reason but you may never see that reason if you only see the negatives surrounding it. It is essential that we look for the positives because they are always there just as much as the negative. The negatives are too but we need to ask ourselves why would anyone choose to focus on them given the choice?
So why do we repeatedly keep failing at things when these changes come up? It’s because we question those intuitive inspirations that come up. We tend to go with our feelings even if they’re negative not realizing that we have a choice to choose the positive instead. We let friends wallow in self pity because we feel sorry for them and we don’t realize that we’re making it worse for them when we help them linger in it. We are afraid of losing a friend if we tell them to get over it and move on. Everything in life is a choice and those choices make up our future. We make it as hard or as easy as need be. Changing your focus is changing your life. It doesn’t make sense to expect a positive outcome when your focus is on negative aspects.
So who’s fault is it that we think the way we do? Well it’s Mom and Dad’s fault of course. No not really but in a way it is. We are programmed at birth to look at things the way we do. It’s gone on for generations and we think we’re doing right by our off spring to keep them in line and mold them like we were molded. What we’re really doing is limiting our selves and our children every time the ideas we have seems off the wall so we put a stop to it. We have a great system in play here where we try things and many times we fail or don’t get it quite right but when we try those inspirations that come to us we find out what it entails and the possibilities become endless. When we dismiss our dream or our children’s dreams as if they are nothing but a pipe dream we sell our self short and we’ll never know what it could have been.

Top Ten Ways to Find Peace At Home

Top Ten Ways to Find Peace At Home

In an ideal world, our home is a place of peace away from the hectic outside world. Unfortunately, ideal worlds don't exist!
In order to make your home a sanctuary, you have to put in a little effort, but thankfully, it's easier than you think.

Here are ten ways you can find peace in your home:

1. Clear the Clutter. Many people never feel at ease when they're at home because their home is disorganized. Of course, a cluttered environment leads to a cluttered mind, and a cluttered mind is a chaotic one. If you take one weekend to clear the clutter from your home, you'll feel an immediate difference in your peace level.
2. Find a Hobby. Sometimes it's boredom that gets the best of us when we're at home. When you have a hobby to turn to, you'll find that it's a lot easier to feel peaceful and fulfilled.
3. Turn on the music. Listening to calming music will allow you to let go of the stress of the day and enjoy your time at home. Choose whatever kind of music you like, as long as it relaxes you.
4. Leave your work at work. If your home is an office away from the office, how can you ever find peace? Except for the rare occasion, leave your work at work, both physically and mentally. If you work from home, work in one dedicated space. Also, never work in the same room as you sleep, otherwise, you'll associate your bedroom as a workspace.
5. Create time to decompress. Do you rush home from work and immediately take on more responsibilities and chores? Instead, allow yourself even 10 or 15 minutes to relax and unwind before you begin tasks for the home. Doing so will mark a clear separation in your mind between work and home.
* You might want to just lie on your bed for a few minutes, read a book, or take a shower. This short time will rejuvenate and refresh you.
6. Be considerate. Be mindful of your family and their daily stresses as well. Too often, we take their presence and contributions for granted. Remember that the people you live with are human, too. Show your gratitude for them.
7. Use positive reinforcement. When someone in your family does something to contribute to the peace, be sure to praise them to let them know you appreciate what they did. This will help foster more peace in the future!
8. Pick your battles. You could fight a lot about little, insignificant things, but is it worth it? Instead, choose only the most important transgressions to challenge.
9. Allow things to roll off your back. When something isn't a big deal, just let it go. Instead, focus on maintaining your inner peace. You'll be glad in the long run that you decided to go this route; it makes life so much easier!
10. Cool off. When you're involved in a conflict at home, give yourself some time to cool off. Doing so will help you calmly talk about your feelings and come to a resolution. Or perhaps you just may realize that the issue wasn't as big of a deal as you first thought.
Maintaining peace in your home is important to the health and well being of every family member. Use these tips to nurture a peaceful environment so your home is a joy to come home to!

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6 Ways to Thrive in Tough Times

6 Ways to Thrive in Tough Times

Tough times can bring you to your knees. They can also raise you to new heights.
You can be stressed to the max on a bad day, yet, as long as life seems manageable, you don’t usually look for new strategies to get through it. The tendency is to pull yourself up by the bootstraps, grit your teeth and keep on going. During prolonged or sudden tough times, though, normal defense mechanisms are not enough to keep you from feeling vulnerable and overwhelmed.
It’s when events feel overwhelmingly beyond your control, that you either find new ways to cope or are pulled down by the undertow. Your usual defenses are inadequate to protect from overwhelming long-term stress. Stress can build gradually beyond tolerance level, or a surprising turn of events like those recently reported in the news can create the kind of vulnerability that demands openness to change.
The soft inner core of your being feels exposed. This exposure opens a crack in the old armor through which an opportunity for renewed life can shine.
Here are six tips that can help you thrive in tough times.
Nourish Yourself – Let go of the bootstraps for a few moments, acknowledge your stress and be kind to yourself. What nourishes you — inspirational reading, music, a cup of tea …? Are there people or places, a favorite chair or spot in nature that provide sustenance? Make nurturing yourself every day a priority.
Stay Present – Don’t project ahead. Take life one day, one moment at a time. Tough times are more manageable when you pay attention to making decisions and taking action on only the next step. Fearful preoccupation or worries about dire imagined future possibilities can leave you open to illness, accidents and errors in judgment that compound your problems. Scale down, simplify your activities and concentrate your precious energy supply on only what is critically important right now.
Accept Support – This can be difficult for people who prize self-sufficiency. Remember it is as virtuous to receive, as it is to give. Without the receiver, the giver has no way to share their abundant gifts. Don’t deprive your friends and family of the pleasure to help you when you need it. Shared burdens provide opportunities for enhanced closeness and appreciation for one another.
Trust Your Resilience - Chances are you have been through tough times before. What natural strengths did you rely upon in those situations? How did you make it through adolescence, childbirth, marriage, divorce, school, first job? What are your natural inner resources? Trust that you have what you need to see this tough time through.
Visualize Success – See yourself moving into a new chapter of life. How do you want to write that chapter? Creation begins in the imagination. If you can think it, you can create it. In order to be free to dream and hope for something new, you must let go of old visions, descriptions and limitations of the person you think you are or can become.
Forgive Past Errors – Forgive past hurts, and people who may have inflicted them, knowingly or unknowingly. This is not out of kindness to them, rather out of kindness to you. After all, you are the one carrying the burden of these hurts. Forgive yourself for mistakes or paths not taken. Release the burden of the past so you can travel lighter in the present.
In times of crisis and radical change, remember that living means growing. I have never seen anything in nature grow backward. So, as bad as you feel, and as much as you doubt it, if you are alive you are growing.
Growth is creative. So, take advantage of the opportunity in these tough times to re-create your life by nourishing yourself, staying present, accepting support, trusting your resilience, visioning possibilities and letting go of the past and perceived limitations.
Even though tough times are hard, they can also be the best times to explore ways to live more harmoniously with yourself and others.